Juliet Sims Hypnotherapy, NLP & Coaching in Lymington, Hampshire

Slowing Down For a Change

We all know modern life can be busy. Many of us run around with a sense of urgency, trying to get everything done that ‘has’ to be done. And it can feel like life is getting faster and faster as we are constantly bombarded with messages, emails, social media, people to see, commitments to keep. This was me last week… and what happened? I ended up with a sore throat and a streaming cold (huge apologies to all of my clients I have had to cancel this week).

But what did I learn? To slow down. This week I’ve allowed myself time to reflect, to read, to learn. I’ve been able to think about what changes I want to make and have given myself the gift of time. Time to recover, time to plan. And with it has come a sense of inner calm.

I work with so many people who are constantly busy, stressed and ultimately suffering high levels of anxiety. But how would life be if we allowed ourselves some time out more often? Whilst it might not be the answer to all our challenges in life, it could just be starting point to seeing our lives from a new perspective, gaining insight into what changes we want to make to be happier and healthier in our everyday lives.

If you’re feeling stressed, busy or anxious, what would happen if you simply took some time to reflect? Take some time to see yourself in ‘busy mode’, almost as if you’re watching a film of you being stressed, busy or anxious. What advice would you give to that ‘you’? And ask yourself ‘Who do I want to be? What would make me happier? What can I do to enjoy my life even more?’.

Slow down for a change and reflect. I highly recommend it.

20th September 2019


Blog. A Fresh Start

Releasing the Past for a Fresh Start

With only a few weeks left of August, many people are beginning to turn their minds to September. September can be a time of fresh starts. We can all remember the start of the new school year as that autumnal feel fills the air. New uniform, new shoes and new pencil case. I often think of it as the start of a new year.

It’s a great time to start thinking about what we want to achieve or indeed, what we want to leave behind. I’ve recently been working with a number of people who want to overcome old problematic behaviour whether this be drinking too much alcohol, eating too much or indeed ruminating over the past. August always seems to be a month of letting go of the past for a fresh start.

Take Anne(*) for example. She’d been married for 25 years, had (in her words) ‘put up with a lot’ from her ex-husband, but despite having been divorced for 3 years, she was unable to stop thinking about all those past years of marriage. Every day since her husband had left, she had been consumed with replaying the past in her head, asking herself why he had behaved how he had. And it was driving her mad. Within 90 minutes she had been able to release all that emotion attached to her past so she could begin to focus her mind on how she wanted her future to look. She’s since been able to do things she would never have imagined and has firm plans for the future. I am thrilled!

So, in these last few weeks of August, begin to think about what (or even who) no longer serves you in your life so you can release the past for a fresh start. Focus your mind on who and where you want to be by Christmas. What do you want to have in your life? And what can you do to ensure it happens? Imagine it in great detail until it becomes so desirable you feel drawn towards it. You may just be surprised at the future you can create.

(*) Name has been changed for confidentiality purposes

12th August 2019


Blog. Anxiety

Coping with Anxiety

Anxiety has continued to be a dominating theme in my clinic in the past year.

Whilst we all have feelings of anxiety at some point in our lives, many people experience high levels of anxiety on a regular basis.

Anxiety disorders are becoming increasingly common in our fast-paced world. People are suffering as more and more responsibilities and demands are placed on them and it is estimated that 13% of the population are suffering from an anxiety disorder at any one time.

So what is Anxiety?
The Oxford Dictionary defines anxiety as being a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.

It is often referred to as the ‘flight or fight’ response state, putting our bodies into a constant state of high alert. In this state, adrenalin is quickly pumped through the body, enabling it to cope with whatever ‘danger’ lies ahead. This can serve us well in situations where we face something difficult or dangerous. However, problems can arise when this response is generated when no real danger is present. Imagined danger can be the result of overthinking and constantly focusing on what can go wrong until we become overwhelmed with anxious feelings. This in turn can have a negative impact on our physical bodies. Our immune systems can become weakened, leaving us more vulnerable to viral infections.

What can help?
Hypnotherapy and NLP can be extremely effective in helping to alleviate the symptoms quickly. I like to teach people techniques they can use on an ongoing basis so they are able to cope with anxiety in the long term. However, here are some simple steps you can take to help yourself:-

Breathing Techniques
Sit quietly and focus on your breathing. Place a hand on your heart area and breathe in to the count of 6, pause, and breathe out for 6, slowly and deeply. Repeat this several times until you can sense a feeling of calm in your body.

Be Present
Many people have a constant chatter in their heads about everything that can possibly go wrong in the future. I call this the 'What If? Game'. For example, we might be asking ourselves questions such as 'What if things don't work out?'. We can all have a tendency to focus on what could go wrong from time to time. Focus your mind on the here and now, switching your mind away from your worries and fears about the future.

Physical Exercise
Exercise has an uplifting effect on our mood, it tires our muscles, preventing anxiety symptoms and it burns the stress hormone that may trigger anxiety. You don’t need to engage in strenuous exercise, even a 15 minute walk outside can help to lift your mood.

Reduce Your Use of Stimulants
Symptoms can be worsened by use of stimulants as these substances actually speed up the nervous system. Caffeine is one of the most commonly used stimulants and can be found in coffee, energy drinks, tea, fizzy drinks and chocolate. In addition, reduce your intake of alcohol as this too is a stimulant.

Give Yourself a Break
One of my favourite questions I ask a client is ‘how do you relax?’. This is often met with a blank face. Make sure you give yourself time to really relax whether this is a soak in the bath, closing your eyes and listening to your favourite music or treating yourself to a relaxing massage.

Self-Hypnosis
I like to teach my clients self-hypnosis. However, there are many free self-hypnosis resources available (for example on You Tube) that can help you to switch off and achieve a deep state of relaxation. Plug in, put on your headphones and relax.

Perhaps the worst thing about anxiety is that when it is not managed, it has a tendency to get worse and worse. A sufferer can become anxious about more and more things until anxiety becomes ‘normal’ to them. If you suffer with anxiety, I would urge you to seek professional help as soon as possible.

15th July 2019


Hypnotherapy - Myths & Misconceptions

I recently went to a friend’s wedding where a lot of us guests didn’t know each other. After the formal introductions were made, inevitably the question ‘So what do you do?’ was asked. I always quite enjoy being asked what I do as I like to see people’s reactions when I tell them ‘I’m a Hypnotherapist’.

I find that either I am asked ‘Oh, can you help me?’ followed by a potted history of whatever issue a person has, or someone immediately recoils with fear in their eyes as if I had announced I was a serial murderer!

On this particular day, it was the latter response that I was met with when I was chatting to one lady. She went on to say that even though she had heard how effective it could be, it was the fear of the unknown, of being out of control and being made to do something she didn’t want to do that frightened her.

So I thought I would dispel some common myths and misconceptions about hypnotherapy:-

Hypnotherapy = Mind Control
A person undergoing hypnosis is participating by choice and is fully in control of themselves. They have the ability to take themselves out of the hypnotic state if they choose to by simply opening their eyes. A Hypnotherapist cannot make someone do anything that goes against their core values.

A Hypnotherapist will make me do silly things
We’re all aware of the Stage Hypnotist who makes his subjects cluck like chickens but the fact is a Hypnotherapist cannot make you do anything against your will.

Stage Hypnotists will invite volunteers from the audience to get up on stage but they are ‘willing participants’ who understand the nature of such shows and know that they will be entertaining the audience by doing amusing things.

I might never wake up
Contrary to popular belief, you are not unconscious! Hypnosis is a calm and relaxed state in which you can hear everything that is being said. Sometimes a person can be a little reluctant to leave this pleasant state and return to full alertness. However, with a little encouragement, they will open their eyes and ‘return to the room’.

I might reveal my darkest secrets
You can lie under hypnosis just as easily as in the waking state. In fact, as hypnosis gives you greater access to unconscious resources, you may even be able to tell more creative lies when in trance. But, you are in complete control of what you chose to reveal or conceal.

I can’t be hypnotised
Although some researchers claim that some people are not able to be hypnotised, everyone has the ability to be hypnotised because it’s a natural, normal state that each of us enter at least twice each day – upon awakening and falling asleep. Also, whenever we are driving and we reach our destination without any conscious memory of the journey, we are in a hypnotic state.

I hope this helps to remove some of the fear and mystery surrounding hypnotherapy but I’m always happy to answer people’s questions and to offer further reassurance as to the safety and effectiveness of the treatment.

And as for the lady with whom I was chatting, once I had explained more about what hypnotherapy is and isn’t, she booked in for a session…


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